Anger is one of the most common emotions in the human mind and we experience it to a greater or lesser extent in each of our lives. It never happens that no one ever gets angry. Every person has some positive emotions, as well as some negative emotions. We don’t accept negative emotions just as easily as we accept positive emotions. We also don’t accept anger as a negative emotion in us.
Your mind does not dare to admit that I am angry or angry. Why are you angry? So have you ever been hurt by someone, no one understands what you are saying, someone is treating you falsely or wrongly, someone is constantly misunderstanding you or someone is abusing you.This leads to an outburst of emotions, which is anger. And the result is that you become constantly irritated, very angry, quarrelsome, you don’t want to say anything. But this anger is not the same in everyone, its intensity The timing varies from person to person and the math of how much it hurts is also different for everyone.
Sometimes good things can happen, but sometimes bad things can happen. Basically, getting angry is an indication that things around us are not good. Anger loses control of our body. The mental state begins to waver, which in turn increases stress. Irritability increases in us. Wrong things, wrong decisions start to happen out of our hands, relationships get worse. We slowly begin to fall alone.
We begin to lose control of ourselves. Sometimes anger is so intense that many people embrace death in the heat of anger. Rangoli is the ashes of many people’s world. Instead of falling victim to all these, we should be able to control him. We should be able to control him so that he can protect us at the right time because we have to decide where to let him loose and where to stop him. Anger, even if it is bad, is an integral part of self-defense and self-esteem.
Sometimes we get very upset, sad, then we express anger to bear that sadness or that pain, then sometimes it happens consciously or unknowingly. But there are disadvantages as well as advantages of expressing anger, Our mind is distracted by sorrow.
Sometimes we can temporarily turn a blind eye to our second situation in thinking about how to respond to the person we are angry with. However, this anger takes the form of a problem when its consequences endanger social, personal and physical health.
Recent research shows that people who are unable or unwilling to control their anger are more likely to have a heart attack before the age of fifty. Similarly, in a person who is very angry or aggressive towards small things, you may find high blood pressure or normal blood pressure.
In fact, in order to control our anger, we need to know how to recognize that we are angry. , What exactly makes me angry ?, What will be my reaction then or how should it be? And to know all this, you need to know the symptoms of anger. What exactly are the symptoms of anger?
In it we find some physical, some mental symptoms. Physical symptoms include tightness of the teeth and lips, abdominal pain, palpitations, headache, redness of the face, tingling in the extremities, sweating, dizziness, while mental symptoms include irritability, sadness, depression, guilt, Feeling very anxious and constantly yelling at others. You also notice a change in your behavior in anger, such as rubbing your palms against each other, hitting Yerzhara, talking sarcastically, talking nonsense, wanting to consume alcohol or tobacco, cigarettes, talking loudly, We see symptoms like crying, screaming.
Many times we think that controlling / suppressing anger is a good way to control anger but if not then it is a wrong way to control anger. Which can affect our physical, mental and social well-being, but anger must be expressed. If it is expressed in an aggressive manner, it will again have a violent effect on our mentality, body, our social welfare.
So how can we manage our anger?
- Make a diary of your anger. Exactly what makes you angry. Write down what time it will come, this will help you to understand the angry situation, so that you can handle the situation even if it happens in the future. Besides, what do you do when you get angry?
- Find a safe place to express your anger. Instead of shouting at someone or blowing things up, go to a safe place or a room where you are alone. Hit the pillow, shout at the empty wall or throw the ball on the wall.
- Practice taking deep breaths. Taking a few deep breaths will calm you down and strengthen you mentally and physically.
Count 1 to 10 digits. Although it may seem simple, it is an effective anger management technique. Counting helps you to relax from the situation and distract yourself from the thoughts that create anger.
- Immediately move away from the person or situation that has caused the anger. Take a short walk, sing a favorite song, all these things give you time to think and solve the problem.
Imagine the immediate consequences of your anger.
- First of all, admit that you are angry. Instead of saying whatever comes to your mind at that moment, think about how you can respond in a more appropriate way. Here we learn that we respect the needs and feelings of others.
- Learn to forgive and forget.
- Emphasize your anger in a favorable way rather than aggressively or suppressing it. Express your displeasure at the right place at the right time.
- Incorporate yoga and meditation into your daily life.
- In addition, if you feel unable to handle your anger, consult a counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist.
- If we try to do all this, we can make a positive difference in our lives.